The best way to judge someone’s character? See how they treat people, who they believe, are not as important as them; who they have no vested interest in trying to please or impress. The very fact that they believe that other people are not that important- what does that tell you about them?
It’s true isn’t it?
How many times have you smiled at someone, and they haven’t responded in return?
How many times have you been ignored in favour of someone who perhaps because of their status, was more deserving of attention?
It’s interesting, watching those people in their everyday interactions. They are oblivious to how they behave to the ‘lesser ones’. They have absolutely no idea how they appear to people who they deem to be not important.
My brother said something interesting to me once; the high profile company that he works for, has a culture where all employees have to take feedback from both senior AND junior colleagues.
This actually stuck with me. What a fantastic, forward thinking concept. People who you are naturally trying to impress, will see your positives because that’s what you will do your best to present…but those people who traditionally, would not decide if you’re worthy for promotion or not…if they give feedback to you, AND IT MATTERED, what could you learn?
So many people spend so long trying to impress – and let’s call a spade a spade – kissing the backsides of their superiors- they ignore, disrespect or simply disregard others.
What a shock it would be, if you were told by a junior, ‘You’re actually quite rude. You walk past me as if I don’t exist and reluctantly talk to me when you need something!’ More than likely, if you’re that type of person, you wouldn’t give two merry hoots anyway!
As you’re reading this, you’re making a mental list aren’t you? You’re listing in your head, people you know who would push you under a bus for their own gain, faster than you could say, ‘you’re an arse licking fraud!’
I’ll let you into a little secret…sadly, there are more of those people around than you could possibly imagine. Millions of them.
So that’s why, when people are showed respect by someone who traditionally ‘doesn’t need to’ – people are shocked! Those are the people of legends. People, when you meet them and spend time with them, you never forget.
So, who are you then? The fraud, without integrity, who is only nice for your own gain….or the rare, genuine, kind person that is like that for absolutely no damn reason at all?
Ask someone who you don’t speak to very much because they aren’t as important as you. They’ll tell you the truth that you need to hear.
And remember that old cliche: be nice to the people on your way up, because you’ll meet them on your way down.