Pain

There are two camps aren’t there? One who love an inspirational quote or a sound bite, enjoy reading them and seeing what resonates with them, which bit of advice are they going to try to take on board for the day?  The other camp hate that trendy pop psychology and love to berate and make fun of those who tweet, or retweet, or post and share the good advice of the day.

I actually belong to the camp of people who quite likes to see an inspirational quote.  I don’t have much time to read for pleasure – so if a soundbite can sum up a sentiment that I wouldn’t have been able to access unless I’d read a whole book – I’m happy.

Because, let’s face it – we need to be inspired don’t we?  We need to be motivated.  We need to know, or believe or be reminded that what we are doing is worthwhile and for a higher purpose, or make us closer to a goal …otherwise what is all this pain for?

Yesterday, I caught a soundbite of some sort.  I can’t remember the source, I couldn’t tell you what/where/who it was from.  I didn’t really give myself a chance to even read it properly – but somehow the essence of it stuck with me.

To summarise, (because I only glanced at it for a split second), it said how your reality is based on your perception of the world; change your perception for the better and your reality will also change.

It’s stuck with me.

I can’t stop thinking about it.  Is that true? I know that this message has been rephrased and rehashed a hundred times over, and I have heard it so many times before.  But today I’m actually beginning to question it.  If you are feeling in pain – not physical pain, because everyone can see and sympathise with that. If you are feeling a pain, that no one can see – is that your perception?  Is that not real? But it sure as hell feels real. Do you just snap out of it and see the ‘good’ in everything?

Here’s another one that I’ve seen and heard a million times before.  God never gives you anything that you can’t handle.  And of course here’s another old chestnut – what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

What happens when you stop feeling invincible?

So you have to force yourself to stop feeling that way? That’s easy isn’t it? Change the way you view the world and your reality changes for you.

I don’t know if that’s right or wrong.  I know it must work – our minds are so powerful – it must work.  Or are we just a part of the people being fooled like in the ‘Emperor’s New Clothes’? Being fed pop placebo psychology, trying to swallow empty pills to ease the pain, whilst someone who is churning out this rubbish is rubbing their hands with glee and laughing at us while we nod wisely and spout out the same fake messages to help and comfort one another.

I have no answers.  Only questions.

What I do know – people who are in pain – that you can’t see – are in pain.  Real pain.  You can’t tell them to snap out of it just because you can’t see it.  You have no idea what burdens people carry on their shoulders.  You can’t see their bandages or their plasters but its real.

Sometimes the only thing that keeps them going – is the fact that they have to.  They live to battle another day.  They hope the pain will go away and that their perception of the world will change.  Maybe it will, maybe it won’t.  These people, with their pain, are superheroes who walk amongst us.

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